Shake the Haters Off

As college students, professionals, etc., we are aspiring to be successful no matter what that definition is. I am sure when you started your academic or professional journey there were certain people (family and friends) that you identified as your supporters. This is a great thing as having a support system is very motivating and encouraging.

As time goes on and if you notice the people that you thought were your supporters are more negative and not encouraging, then you need to make a decision.

Here are a few options that may help you address this matter:

1. You can discuss your observation with them. Let them know that you need their support not their negative energy.


2. You can start dealing with them at a distance - meaning that you only interact with them when needed.


3. You can simply cut them off and stop dealing with them period.
   

This can be a tough thing, as some of the people that fall into this category maybe family members or close friends, but this maybe necessary.

I think the decision that you make depends on the level of "hateration" this person has displayed. I know that hateration maybe a harsh term for some, but you will be surprised the people (family or friends) that have a hard time accepting and/or dealing with what you have accomplished or are trying to accomplish.

Note: You must keep in mind that while you are working to complete a goal, to be your best, etc. - you do not need people in your circle that are discouraging or negative.

I was watching Yolanda Green's show Outlook Houston one Sunday and a well-known motivational speaker Jonathon Sprinkles noted something to the effect that, if you have people in your circle that are negative energy, not supportive, etc., - you need to Erase and Replace that person with someone who is on your team.

Good luck and keep your eyes on the prize.